Every year for as long as I can remember, I've hosted Christmas for all comers - family, friends and even not-friends. Older relatives have been included and we have really enjoyed having them. It's not been a chore at all. We love getting everyone together.
I've happily rushed around, organising everything, getting ready for the festivities. Then, after a scrappy lunch on Christmas Eve, anyone can come and stay for as long as they like. It's not perfect - very homemade - but it's been nice, I hope.
But an elderly aunt has demanded to arrive early on Christmas Eve morning, when I will actually be out doing the last food shopping, when she has been invited to come that afternoon and stay until Boxing day.
I asked if she would come a bit later, for lunch even, but she will not consider it. In fact, she has now bought a Christmas ready dinner and says she will be staying at home on her own. She is a very determined person and prides herself on sticking to her guns.
I've pleaded with her to change her mind. I said I would send a taxi for her, to bring her here for lunch - even though I wasn't going to do a proper 'lunch'. But she's not having it and, a friend has told me, she has even gone so far as to change her Will.
I didn't know I was in the Will and I don't care about the Will, but I feel very unhappy at the thought of her being on her own.
Am I being unreasonable? Should I let her come when she wants or should I hold the line? She will spend Christmas alone, if I do. But if I let her come early, it will throw me out and is just pandering to a very difficult person.