How can you tell your elderly mother-in-law that you really don't want her to join you on holiday this year?
A reader gets in touch to say, that is exactly the dilemma she is in. She knows that, without them, her mother-in-law won't get a holiday. She knows that her husband's mother has previously loved going away with the family, has talked of little else for months and will be devastated that she is not wanted on board. But, and it's a very big but, our reader just wants a holiday with her own little family, without her 80-something mother-in-law.
She really likes the older lady. They get on well and the mother-in-law makes an effort to fit in. But, she says, events involving her inevitably become about her and her wishes - where does she want to eat, what will they do in the evening, who sits in the front of the car?
'I feel like a guest on my own holiday,' she said. 'But can I face leaving her out? My husband will be really upset, so will she.
'She won't be able to do this for many more years. But then the children won't be children for many more years. Am I being unreasonable?'